With a new baby on the way, I am planning a virtual baby shower for August complete with tons of baby gear reviews and a massive giveaway. I already have some great companies lined up, and I am working on getting more. (If you have a baby or new mom product and would like to participate, contact me.)
Leading up to the virtual shower, I thought it would be fun to recruit some of my fellow bloggers to share their best parenting advice. So every week from now till August, I will feature A Mom Blogger’s Advice. I hope you enjoy the advice as much as I do (I am printing all of the advice for my baby book).
I’d love to hear from you too. If you have parenting advice you would like to share (whether you are a blogger or not), email me. I’ll feature any advice I get so everyone can enjoy.
Advice from Annie at MamaDweeb.com
Follow your gut and don’t compare!
It took me a long time to learn this rule. It is so basic and yet I struggled with it my entire life. Becoming a mom, my comparing myself to others got even worse. I started to get anxiety about my effectiveness as a mother.
I measured my success at mothering based on how my child compared to my friend’s children. And I did this when she was a baby!
I’d find myself thinking, “Heather’s 6-month-old baby sleeps from 7pm-7am. How come mine wakes up every 2 hours still? I suck as a mom. I’m damaging her for life!”
And then the inner struggle between my deep-rooted mom-gut and the apparent success of what others were doing (and what they thought of me) raged fiercely.
It was not until I started to close myself off from “others” in my mind and parented from my heart, my way, that I finally found peace. I began to allow my friends to parent their way and I parented mine. For me, co-sleeping gave me more rest and a deeper connection with my babies. For my friends, a crib gave them the same thing.
I also discovered a truth that made me feel so much better: Perfect kids don’t exist. Those happy, calm, centered mothers have “I’m gonna pull my hair out and ship my kids to grandma’s house for a month” days.
Do not compare. Your baby is not too skinny, too fat. It sleeps just fine and you are the perfect mother for your baby.
About the Author:
Annie stays at home with her 3 young children and blogs in Kansas on her blog MamaDweeb.com. She writes frequently about blogging, parenting and Kansas happenings. You can find her on twitter @MamaDweeb, she loves to chat about all things parenting and life!