When you mess with baby, you mess with mama and someone’s been messing with my baby. Of course this someone appears to be a group of five year olds, so there isn’t much I can do, but my heart is so sad. I endured years of tormenting by my peers, so I know how mean girls can be, but can this really be starting in preschool?
Last night before bed K told us that she didn’t want to go to Stay and Play, which is the after school program she goes to once a week at her preschool. She goes to the program with her two best friends and looks forward to it every week since she started in late fall. So when she said she didn’t want to go, we were concerned.
This morning she woke up with conviction that she didn’t want to go. She said she wanted to take a longer nap before ballet. For my big napper, this was a somewhat understandable explanation. On Thursdays she only gets a short nap between Stay and Play and ballet, and last week she was particularly tired because of Disney the day before… But it still seemed off.
At lunch, my suspicions were confirmed when out of nowhere she said, “The big kids at Stay and Play call me a baby.”
After a bit more prodding, it does indeed seem that she didn’t want to go to Stay and Play because the older kids were picking on her and/or excluding her. “They say I am not their friend,” she told us.
Ouch. My heart hurts. She’s not even four years old and already someone has made her feel so bad that she didn’t want to do something she once looked forward to.
I will call the school, of course, but really what can they do? Really the only thing I can do is to try to help redirect her. She doesn’t understand why they were mean, and really neither do I.